What a beautiful story that came out of the struggles of relationship and ultimately divorce of Gerald Rogers author of “The Marriage Advice I Wish I Would’ve Had”. He took his life lessons to heart and is sharing his message with the world.
I’m not a relationship expert… there’s something about my divorce being finalized… gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different… What advice would I have given myself? I gained so much from my journey. My mess became my message. – Gerald Rogers
Here are just 7 of the 20 core principles:
Never stop courting. Never stop dating: It’s not time to get lazy once you are in a relationship. Never take your love for granted.
Protect your own heart: Love yourself fully.
Fall in love over and over and over again: Wake up everyday choosing her and her love all over again.
Always see the best in her: Focus on all the things you love about her. See yourself as the luckiest man on earth to be with this woman as your wife.
It’s not your job to change or fix her: Your job is to love her just the way she is and just the way she isn’t. End of story.
Take full accountability: Be accountable for your own emotions. She can’t make you sad and your job is not to make her happy.
Be silly: Laugh, play and have fun in your relationship. Don’t take life so seriously.
If you are reading this and find wisdom in my pain, share it those those young husbands whose hearts are still full of hope, and with those couples you may know who may have forgotten how to love. One of those men may be like I was, and in these hard earned lessons perhaps something will awaken in him and he will learn to be the man his lady has been waiting for. Gerald Rogers
You can clearly see that being in a relationship doesn’t go without attention and nurturing that relationship. It’s certainly not like a plant. You water a plant once each week and it will be fine until you water it again. Relationships are constantly dynamic… moving and changing on a daily basis. First you have two people going through their own personal journey in life. Next you have the couple’s journey. The couple’s journey is not the time to be the Lone Ranger. Be very clear when you CHOOSE relationship. Choose someone you already have many many things in common with and there is a certain amount of ease. When you choose be committed to choosing for the long haul and do not give reasons to quit. When you CHOOSE relationship you are choosing to love and be loved… you are choosing EVERYTHING that goes with relationship. A single person can have quite an amazing life, but being in relationship takes your life and expands it exponentially. There are so many things you just can’t experience being by yourself. Take the risk. Be bold and daring. Love is worth it. Be prepared to be touched and moved in ways that nothing has ever touched and moved you before. Happy nurturing love to all of you!